The Holiday Blues: When Thing's Don't Feel Merry

The Holiday Blues: When Thing's Don't Feel Merry

The holiday season is upon us! With all of the festivities, family time and traveling it's easy to get caught up in the moment and lose sight of all the emotional toll that this time of year can carry for many of us.It's important to acknowledge that despite all the holiday parties, joy and quality time that we get to spend with the people who we love, this time of year can also bring up feelings of loss, loneliness, depression and painful memories of people no longer in our lives.

Mindful Living: Learning To Be Present In Your Life

Mindful Living: Learning To Be Present In Your Life

Mindfulness is more than a 1-hour meditation class or a 10-minute guided recording on an app. It's a way of life, a moral compass and a change in perspective that can improve all aspects of your life including relationships, self-awareness, attunement to the environment and the ability to understand and regulate your internal experience. 

Going The Distance: What It Takes To Make Relationships Work

Going The Distance: What It Takes To Make Relationships Work

As technology has changed how we meet, communicate and date- long distance relationships have become a norm in our culture. Yet, there really hasn't been much discussion about how to navigate these types of relationships and the struggles that come up for couples who are trying to "go the distance." 

The Power Of Projection: When You Can't See The Truth

The Power Of Projection: When You Can't See The Truth

Projection is a powerful thing. Probably one of the most powerful psychological and emotional qualities that sets humans apart from other animals. We project our thoughts onto paper and create stories, songs, and poetry. We project our ideas and create incredible inventions and we project our hearts deepest wishes, desires, pain onto others and relationships, all without even consciously realizing it. 

Why It's Ok To Get Hurt: Life's Greatest Lessons

Why It's Ok To Get Hurt: Life's Greatest Lessons

Our greatest growth often comes from the most difficult times in our life. Getting hurt is inevitable in life, especially when it comes to relationships. It's hard to always know how to cope and process everything when you are in the trenches of pain and darkness.

Vulnerability: The Leap Into The Unknown

 Vulnerability: The Leap Into The Unknown

Vulnerability means showing up and allowing yourself to be seen, speaking your truth and putting yourself at risk for rejection. It's saying "I love you" and not knowing how the other person feels. It's hearing that you have cancer. It's walking into an interview for your dream job. It's becoming a parent for the first time. It's facing someone that you have hurt. It's admitting that you struggle with an addiction or that your relationship isn't working anymore.

You Do You: Why It's Ok To Be "Selfish" Sometimes

You Do You: Why It's Ok To Be "Selfish" Sometimes

If we are told that we are being "selfish" there is an automatic feeling that what we are doing something shameful. 

Our society sends us contradictory messages- we live in a individualistic culture that sets us up to fend for ourselves. While also judging us harshly, when we make decisions that benefit us or put our needs first.

The Narcissistic Relationship: Take Back Your Power

The Narcissistic Relationship: Take Back Your Power

Narcissist's lack a coherent sense of self so they use environmental stimuli to feel worthy and powerful. They may seek out travel, expensive clothing, powerful jobs or beautiful partners to project to the world that they are worthy. Using life experiences, things and interesting stories about their lives to feel worthy and lovable. 

Attachment Patterns: Understanding What Happens In Our Relationships

Attachment Patterns: Understanding What Happens In Our Relationships

Our attachment style is formed in earliest moments of our existence, but it holds power over the rest of our lives, especially when it comes to how we function in our closest intimate relationships. 

Coping With A Loss: What To Expect And How To Recover

Coping With A Loss: What To Expect And How To Recover

Going through the stages of grief can be one of the most mentally, spiritually and physically draining emotional experiences we go through as humans.  The loss of a person, relationship or a significant aspect of your life can trigger feelings that are so powerful and overwhelming, you may not know how to cope with them. 

The Commitment Phobic: How To Spot One And Protect Your Heart

The Commitment Phobic: How To Spot One And Protect Your Heart

Commitment phobia stems from unresolved childhood trauma and is an unconscious re-enactment of their internal conflict. Part of the psyche yearns for closeness, companionship, and love, while the other part is terrified of the responsibilities that come with a relationship. Being in a relationship with a commitment phobic is extremely emotionally draining and creates a confusing "push and pull" for anyone involved with them.