The Wellness Diary

Insights, advice, new research, tips and tricks, and new resources to help you with your mental health journey.

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The Five Love Languages: How They Show Up In Relationships

If you haven’t heard of the five love languages you may not realize how much it is affecting your personal relationships. Dr. Gary Chapman, the author of Five Love Languages, designed this book to help others more effectively communicate love. As humans, we long to love and be loved. With that in mind, everyone expresses and receives love differently. The five love languages are the different types of ways we all receive and express love.

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How To Identify a Karmic Relationship

If you have ever experienced a bond that feels like a magnetic connection, but with a turbulent twist, you are not alone. Karmic relationships are filled with passion and pain, often at the same time.

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The Power of Hugs And The Fabulous Health Benefits

Are you a hug or a handshake kind of person? If you’re the latter, you might want to reconsider the power a hug can have on your health. We hug others when we’re excited, happy, sad, or even trying to comfort! Hugging is universally comforting and it makes us feel good. It turns out that hugging is proven to make us healthier, hastier, and happier.

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4-Comfortable Sleeping Positions For Couples

We already know that in order for a relationship to last, two people have to be compatible with one another in most things. Their dreams, plans for the future and even sense of humor should match at least a little- but the same applies to sleep habits too.

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Understanding Trauma Bonds In Toxic Relationships

Trauma bonding is a psychological response to a form of abuse. It occurs when the abused person forms an unhealthy bond with the person who abuses them. The person experiencing the abuse may develop extreme sympathy for the abusive person, which becomes reinforced by the cycles of abuse, followed by total remorse. Stockholm syndrome is one of a type of trauma bond.

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5-Tips To Master Non-Violent Communication

Conflict resolution is a difficult skill to master. Especially in the context of romantic relationships. It requires a variety of skills and including but not limited to high levels of self-awareness, the ability to recognize and tolerate uncomfortable emotions, the courage to stand up for what you need while simultaneously empathizing with, understanding, and considering your partner’s needs. It also requires a social tact and the ability to communicate said needs in a way such that your partner will receive them instead of encouraging defensiveness.

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4- Ways To Stop Projecting Onto Your Romantic Partners

Projection is the process by which we displace our own feelings, beliefs, values or unmet needs on to others. We do this most often and most intensely with romantic partners. Our mind tricks us into seeing our romantic interest as someone different than who they are. We see them as a “savior”- someone who can alleviate us from our own emotional distress.

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5-Conditions Which Contribute To A Healthy Relationship

The past 40 years have yielded unprecedented knowledge about what we need in order to have “healthy” relationships. In this case, I use the word “healthy” to mean that it is a relationship in which there is a good chance that each person will have their emotional needs met and that the relationship has the potential for long-term happiness.

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Ideas for Practicing Self-Care for Good Health

Self-care is a vital habit for all those seeking to live a healthy, sustainable life. Nowadays, the lives of many people are hurried and noisy. In such circumstances, feeling healthy and rested can be very difficult. When you’re stressed and burned out all the time, your health is bound to take a hit. The key is in practicing self-care. This term refers to a range of activities that nurture the body and soul. The intention is to restore health, enhance energy, and reduce stress.

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Work-Life Balance: What Can You Do?

There are ways you can make changes to your current work routine that enhance work-life balance. Nevertheless, it’s always ideal that you think about how your pursuits outside work will coexist with your workplace responsibilities before you apply for or accept a new job. Either way, work-life balance is primarily dependent on what you do and not just what your employer allows you to.

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Vlog: Attachment Styles

Vlog: Sandra Kushnir, LMFT discusses the impact of attachment styles on your relationships, emotional regulations and self-image.

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An Open Letter To My Fellow Women

Women have been pitted against one another for centuries. Whether it be for the attention of men, careers, looks, or even family life, women are no strangers to the fight. Moving forward, we have turned our fight from one another to the betterment of our own and to nurture the quality of our society.

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Understanding The Difference Between Loneliness vs. Being Alone

In our highly social culture, it’s typical for us to flat out reject the idea of spending time solo. We assume that alone time means that we are anti-social, unwanted, or even unloveable. Essentially, we confuse spending time alone with loneliness, although there is a marked difference. Loneliness is finding ourselves alone when we crave company while being alone is an active choice for solitude.

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Dating Yourself and Your Partner

In the month of February, we celebrate love! Love of our partners, of our friends, family, and ourselves? Recently a friend of mine reminds me of the importance of teaching others about dating ourselves and our partners at the same time. This is more than just a practice of self-love but, a topic of creating a relationship of mutual love, respect, and confidence in ourselves.

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The Ultimate Secret of Yoga for Mental Health

Yoga is therapy, the full practice serves us work with the nature of being a human, the nature of the mind, how feelings live in our bodies, how they influence our minds and our behavior. In fact, yoga is much more than holding poses and stretching; yoga is a more widespread practice indeed, a lifestyle that includes several life principles.

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How To Silence Your Inner Critic

Your inner critic is the voice inside your head that judges, demeans, and disapproves of your thoughts and actions. This voice is a manifestation of your fears and doubts. In fact, The New York Times notes that people beat themselves up because of a negative value they've attached to past experiences. This self-criticism can easily lead to poor mental wellbeing, low self-esteem, and a greater risk of failure.

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Self-Compassion: the Antidote for Perfectionism?

why is it that we strive for perfection with our bodies, our social interactions, our performance at work, and in our relationships? We set impossible standards that only lead us to critically question our self-worth and engage in internal name-calling (i.e. “did I look smart enough?” “ugh, I am so lazy.”) This never-ending pursuit of flawlessness does not yield success, instead, it places us on a fast-track to emotional dissatisfaction and a relentless state of unhappiness.

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How To Use Self-Compassion As A Motivator

Before we go into how self-compassion can help motivate you to take positive action towards your life, let’s first learn about what self-compassion is.  What does it mean to treat ourselves with self-compassion?

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