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How To Stop People Pleasing And Improve Your Well-Being

How To Stop People Pleasing And Improve Your Well-Being

Taking steps to challenge this natural reflex of apologizing can support reduced anxiety, guilt and shame. Apologizing is the act of acknowledging “faults or failures”; however chronic apologizers need to redefine their thoughts and understand that not all they are apologizing for are THEIR failures, instead they need to practice gratitude.

Boost Your Mental Performance: By Taking A Nap

Boost Your Mental Performance: By Taking A Nap

Naps have the power to counteract the effects of sleep deprivation and give your brain a midafternoon boost. You can work a nap into your daily routine to increase productivity, creativity, and help you feel your best all day long

Why It's Ok To Get Hurt: Life's Greatest Lessons

Why It's Ok To Get Hurt: Life's Greatest Lessons

Our greatest growth often comes from the most difficult times in our life. Getting hurt is inevitable in life, especially when it comes to relationships. It's hard to always know how to cope and process everything when you are in the trenches of pain and darkness.

The Narcissistic Relationship: Take Back Your Power

The Narcissistic Relationship: Take Back Your Power

Narcissist's lack a coherent sense of self so they use environmental stimuli to feel worthy and powerful. They may seek out travel, expensive clothing, powerful jobs or beautiful partners to project to the world that they are worthy. Using life experiences, things and interesting stories about their lives to feel worthy and lovable. 

Attachment Patterns: Understanding What Happens In Our Relationships

Attachment Patterns: Understanding What Happens In Our Relationships

Our attachment style is formed in earliest moments of our existence, but it holds power over the rest of our lives, especially when it comes to how we function in our closest intimate relationships. 

Coping With A Loss: What To Expect And How To Recover

Coping With A Loss: What To Expect And How To Recover

Going through the stages of grief can be one of the most mentally, spiritually and physically draining emotional experiences we go through as humans.  The loss of a person, relationship or a significant aspect of your life can trigger feelings that are so powerful and overwhelming, you may not know how to cope with them. 

The Commitment Phobic: How To Spot One And Protect Your Heart

The Commitment Phobic: How To Spot One And Protect Your Heart

Commitment phobia stems from unresolved childhood trauma and is an unconscious re-enactment of their internal conflict. Part of the psyche yearns for closeness, companionship, and love, while the other part is terrified of the responsibilities that come with a relationship. Being in a relationship with a commitment phobic is extremely emotionally draining and creates a confusing "push and pull" for anyone involved with them. 

The "Never Enough" Epidemic: Stop Comparing and Break Free

The "Never Enough" Epidemic: Stop Comparing and Break Free

With the creation of social media and technology, we are bombarded daily with images of lives that seem "picture perfect," which can leave us feeling like our own lives are dull and not good enough.  

It's The Little Things: Finding Time for Self-Care

It's The Little Things: Finding Time for Self-Care

In today's world is go-go-go, Monday-Friday goes by in the blink of an eye and suddenly it's the weekend.  

How exhausting is that?! At times, it can feel empty living this way, lost in the hustle of high expectations, to-do lists, and responsibilities. Stress levels can build up and cause emotional and physical responses such as anxiety, depression, and sleep problems.

13 Reasons Why.... Or Why Not: A Therapist's Perspective

13 Reasons Why.... Or Why Not: A Therapist's Perspective

The craze and controversy surrounding Netflix's new original series 13-Reasons Why has been trending on social media, with teens, concerned parents, and professionals. After hearing so much about this show and it's portrayal of suicide due to bullying in high school- I had to watch it. 

Finding Balance: The Emotional Side Of The Tech Industry

Finding Balance: The Emotional Side Of The Tech Industry

As a therapist, and also someone who has indirect exposure to this industry and "startup life" it has been fascinating, beautiful and terrifying all at the same time, to see the impact of tech unfold.

I have witnessed incredible innovation, forward thinking and action oriented positive change. While at the same time, seeing glimpses of another side, that might not be as wonderful and glamours on the inside. These high stakes positions often require endless hours of coding, stress and high-pressure situations that impact the well-being, family, friends and mental health of these forward thinkers. 

Understanding Addiction: Lessons That I Have Learned From Working With Addicts

Understanding Addiction: Lessons That I Have Learned From Working With Addicts

Most of us know someone directly or indirectly has been affected by substance abuse or addiction problems. Understanding why someone abuses substances or becomes addicted is very complicated because unlike depression or anxiety there is a belief that there is a choice, a choice not to use and to begin using in the first place.